I think now is the time that most couples are looking at online dating sites and trying to figure out which one to go for. There are so many to choose from, and there are even more ones out there than there were just a few years ago, which makes it harder to choose. My last piece on this topic was about how to know if someone really liked you back in school days. It's the same process nowadays. You have to be sure of your body. If it doesn't look like it's going to take some time before you're ready for motherhood, then don't go with a guy who can't deliver. So, what do you need? Are you a girl? Do you want kids?
If it's a boy, the chances are slim that you'll be able to have kids before your wedding day. The guys, though they sometimes try to show up, tend to end up giving a less appealing picture when it comes to delivering. This means that they might not get pregnant until after your marriage. They'd also probably get tired quickly from having been through a lot of crying over what would not happen on their first date. And so they will find other girls to pick up and carry the baby a little longer. Men would be left to the side while women would end up carrying the baby in all three positions for a bit longer. That would mean they could wait a little longer to experience the magic of parenthood, or maybe a little longer altogether. But it could mean months, even years, before the woman gave birth.
If you're a girl, and you're willing to help, then there is no reason why you can't have children in four months. Or three months, really. We as females should not be held back by societal pressure. Women have enough to deal with at work. They've got boys to go to school with. A wife and kids are definitely not part of that equation. Being a female, especially a young one, and feeling like you're stuck back with men who aren't willing to commit to getting pregnant just makes you feel hopeless. You need to let them know that you're willing to stick to them. After all, you do you!
You won't be able to get pregnant without your partner being in agreement that they will get together and start trying, too. Both of you need to tell each other that you're taking turns. Be on your own. Tell him if he has any questions, and he's not doing anything wrong. Keep in mind that he is the man. He should do his best to make sure he does everything right. What you want them to do is to get comfortable with it before they actually try to conceive.
Don't stop yourself. Look the most beautiful photos possible, or if you don't have anyone to draw pictures of you, write down words that say "I want to be there." Write them down on paper. Share them around the house. Don't give in to social media guilt; let him decide when he wants to come home to you for dinner and watch your baby. Let him make your decision about where you should pick up the baby or bring the baby to. When you both are ready to put the baby out, have the baby. Then you can plan the rest of the details.
So go be your self, and get pregnant fast. Take care of it, and let the baby grow. Give a little extra attention to your son so you can see the world in a different way. Maybe see how far we've got already. By letting go of control, you'll be amazed at how much you love your child. No pressure whatsoever. Just let yourself enjoy it.
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